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Infinite Country by Patricia Engel | Thoughts

   Published : 2021   ||    Format : print   ||    Location : Colombia ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆ ☆   What was it about the country that kept everyone hostage to its fantasy? The previous month, on its own soil, an American man went to his job at a plant and gunned down fourteen coworkers, and last spring alone there were four different school shootings. A nation at war with itself, yet people still spoke of it as some kind of paradise.. Thoughts : Infinite Country follows two characters - young Talia, who at the beginning of this book, escapes a girl’s reform school in North Colombia so that she can make her previously booked flight to the US. Before she can do that, she needs to travel many miles to reach her father and get her ticket to the rest of her family. As we follow Talia’s treacherous journey south, we learn about how she ended up in the reform school in the first place and why half her family resides in the US. Infinite Country tells the story of her family through the other protagonist, El

The Sunday Salon: On true equality and perceived equality

The Sunday

This has been quite an interesting week for the US. First, the Confederate flags have started coming down and then the pride flags went up. I had taken the day off from work on Friday when the US Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage. Honestly, I didn't see that one coming. I did believe that some day in the future, same-sex marriage was not going to be a big deal at all, like it is now. But to me, that future appeared to be way out there. After all, (loosely condensing several decades of US history) slavery was abolished in 1865, there was still racial segregation and discrimination in the 1960s when the Civil Rights movement gained traction, and we are still seeing racially motivated attacks today. The Stonewall riots happened in 1969 and same-sex marriage got legalized only this week. Women won the right to vote in 1920, and even today, they are often passed up for promotions or raises in favor of men, they don't get decent maternity leave, and god forbid if a woman tries to find a job while carrying a babe in her belly.

My point is that granting of legal rights, while the most important thing that should happen because it gives victims the power to present their case and fight it in a court of law, does not make the world equal. As excited and emotional and thrilled as I was after Friday's ruling, I realized the irony of it - that we are celebrating the fact that a group of people have just been granted equal rights - to marry whomever they wanted to. Stephen King summed this up so perfectly:

It is important to remember that while the US law now sees (almost?) everyone as equals, there will still be subtle discrimination in this country, just as there still is both blatant and subtle discrimination in the rest of the world. There are countries where LGBT people are viewed as ungodly, where women are stoned to death, where news about rapes are shrugged off as commonplace, where a different-looking face or name is cause enough for people to shun that person, where mental issues are considered a stigma, where honor killings are encouraged, and where people are murdered just because they think differently or oppose their government's stand.

Yes, for all these acts of intolerance, there are people out there doing good things too. But it's not enough. And not enough people are doing those good things. We need to stop making excuses that because I am not a woman/gay/colored/white/ill, I don't know what it feels like to be persecuted and therefore I am not qualified to do anything. When people around us suffer, it is already our problem. We are long past the stage where we could stay away from others' battles. How did we become immune to some kinds of discrimination? Why should the court have to legalize same-sex marriage? Why did Malala have to get shot before people sat up and took notice? Why are shootings still happening today - haven't we lost enough of our kids and loved ones? Why does the press glaze over news about wars and discrimination because hey, it's old news that isn't sensational anymore. Yes, a horrible event is usually how awareness comes about. But who are we kidding - we all knew about every one of these tragedies long before it even happened.

I am a strong believer of the idea that tolerance begins in schools. Both responsible and intolerant adults are created there. Yes, in their own homes too, and as long as some parents remain discriminating (and we know these kinds exist), their kids will likely get directed towards the same beliefs. But there is still hope as long as there is diversity in books and curriculum. There is a chance today's kids will look back and ridicule the fact that we (their past) had some crazy beliefs.

I am very well aware that this isn't an issue with a straightforward answer. I am also aware that there are a lot of viewpoints missing from my post. And that the solution isn't as simple as writing a post about it. I also feel that I am probably preaching to the choir as most people believe in the idea of equality - we just have different ways to apply it. If I went that deep in to this topic (and I do feel that we all should), I could write a book about it. But then, we will be dangerously guilty of talking a lot and doing nothing. Which is exactly the status quo today. We are talking a LOT. We are doing very little.

Ultimately, my point is this - we should make every problem in this world our problem. We should hold accountable the people we vote to power. We should not sit back and act helpless when we feel powerless. We should not just talk but also act. We should teach our kids to respect differences right from the time they start exploring the world, even before they have started going to elementary school. This is going to be their problem tomorrow. For every blessing we are thankful for, we need to be aware that there are kids out there who cannot go to school, who live in the streets or are enslaved. We need to learn to not judge people for the choices they make, as long as those choices aren't discriminatory or terrorist or hurtful. A country doesn't become free because its law declares everyone equal. That happens only when a woman can walk alone in the streets (in any country) at 3 am without worrying about being raped, or a student isn't treated differently because of the color of his/her skin, or each person can marry his or her love without a bakery refusing to cater at their wedding because their marriage is ungodly or unconstitutional.


Bryan G. Robinson said…
Amen. Amen. Amen. And again I say amen.

I think I realized some of what you are talking about here as on Friday, I read that we are the 21st nation to recognize same-sex marriage. Twenty-first!? To me, that's crazy. We should have in the top 5 at least if not No. 1 like we claim to be in so many things but sadly aren't.
bermudaonion(Kathy) said…
I agree. These things are important steps forward but it's time to stop judging people on skin color, religion, sexuality, weight, etc. We are all the same deep down inside.
Vasilly said…
Yes yes yes!!! We still have so far to go!

"We should make every problem in this world our problem." That right there. It's going to take awhile, but it needs to be done for ourselves and our children. Why should they have to wrestle with the same problems?
JoAnn @ Lakeside Musing said…
Ti Reed said…
On Facebook, it was made abundantly clear to me how limited our range of thinking is in our society. I had a hard time reading some of the comments my friends posted about the subject.
Athira / Aths said…
Yes, some of the stuff I read on facebook was just disappointing. To many people, the whole idea of homosexuality and trasgender is just laughable so there are people joking and laughing about it. And then there are people calling them un-Christian or un-Islamic or un-. It's just plain sad. There will always be deterrents, can't help that. But, for every deterrent, someone has to step up and speak the other side. It may not help at all, but that voice is heard at least.
Athira / Aths said…
Exactly. I know it is a very impractical approach, in the sense that it is not one that can be scaled or maintained over a long period. But, keeping quiet because a problem doesn't affect us only makes things worse. Without making people meddle into everything, we need to encourage everyone to have an opinion about everything. As kids get older and become adults, they lose a lot of the passion they had as kids, just because adults don't have that same passion and therefore the kid doesn't see any point in dreaming or aiming high or doing something different.
Athira / Aths said…
Exactly! People are so quick to forget that. "My way is the only way. Everyone who is different from me are just not worth wasting my breath on."
Athira / Aths said…
I would have expected the US to be among the first countries to implement this. After all, freedom is a big part of the American dream.
literaryfeline said…
If I was in a place where I could stand up and applaud this post, I would. You are so right, Athira. On so many levels. I want this for my daughter and I only hope that I am guiding her in the right direction.
Belle Wong said…
Beautiful post. And so true. This is only a first step. It's a big change, and one to be celebrated, but there is still so much more to be done.
Diane D said…
What a beautifully written post. I am so happy you put so much thought into this post. What happened to "live and let live"?

Thank you